Sadness and Joy


I always knew looking back on my tears would bring me laughter, but I never knew looking back on my laughter would make me cry.

Cat Stevens

Who at time as not felt rejected, unloved, helpless, lonely and not quite good enough? Who has not cried at the unfairness in our lives? Who has not had to come to terms with the fact that we have to say good bye to those we love most? Who has not had to witness all the pain, suffering and destruction that exists in the world?  Life is tough, it hurts a lot! Being truly alive involves a lot of pain.

A perplexing thing is that not only sad things cause tears, happy things do as well. A family reuniting at the airport with both hugs and tears. Why the tears at the time of great joy? Isn’t joy about reaching the other side of the struggle? Didn’t the family reuniting at the airport first have to go through the pain of separation, a time of loneliness and fear of loss before the joy of their reunion? Whether it is the sorrow of good bye or the joy of hello.

By letting in the pain, it allows us to embrace the joy of being human. All the pain in the world cannot deny the existence of those exquisite moments. Tears have a positive part to play in our lives when we understand that pain is part of life’s richness. No matter how difficult life gets, we can handle it and come out stronger and wiser.  Tears reflect the bitter sweetness that lies in many of our sorrowful experiences.

There is strength in healthy tears for both men and women. There is peace,  flow, energy, compassion and beauty.

13 thoughts on “Sadness and Joy

  1. I told my children about tears when they were growing up,there are sad tears and happy tears. To this day they will sometimes catch me with a tear or two and ask me if they are sad tears or happy tears. Thank you for your wonderful insight,I am glad I read this.Have a great day.

  2. Love the quote, so true. It’s not just current happy occasions that I cry at its reminiscing about the past and something good. I think why can’t it be like that now and cry. (I do cry at most things!)

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