‘You get what you give. What you put into things is what you get out of them.’
Give what you want to receive.
You get the best out of others, and every situation, when you give the best of yourself. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.
I am not suggesting you give everything away, as that shows a lack of basic self-care; but, when you let go of possessions and money, when you bravely open your heart to love, when you bestow a kind word or smile on someone, you open unseen portals for goodness, compassion, and prosperity to flow to you.
Of course, it is hard when you feel unloved, financially stressed, or beset with personal demons to do the opposite of what you might reflexively feel like doing. It is natural to want to conserve your energy, funds, and close your heart when life is particularly stressful. But, by taking a leap, and having faith, this allows you to see new opportunities and let life bestow what you need.
It is crucial to remember that you may not get what you asked for in the exact form you desired or envisioned. Perhaps, you asked for a loving relationship and the man or woman of your dreams didn’t come knocking at your door. While waiting, you developed self-compassion, self-love, and self-acceptance. Weren’t those exactly what you were hoping to find in a relationship? Someone who would show you compassion, love, and accept you as you are?
Sometimes, when you feel most afraid financially, the best thing you can do is donate some money to charity. It doesn’t have to be your rent money, just something to symbolically teach you that what you need will come back to you. Another technique is to buy yourself a treat when you feel as if you can’t afford it. This shows your faith in yourself and the universe. I am not suggesting going into debt, just a small item to help you escape a poverty mentality.
Similarly, when you feel lonely, go out into the world and smile at someone, call a friend who may also be flying solo, or write a loving note, text, or email. Again, by giving what you seek you change your energy.
Letting your love show when you feel vulnerable takes great courage. Giving money, time, and kindness when you acutely feel their lack is deeply generous and open hearted. By letting go and giving freely you enhance your connection with others, and imbue life with more meaning.
Remember: a radical shift in consciousness and behaviour takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself as you gradually change your behaviours. Your worldview will shift accordingly, leaving you more positive, peaceful, and empowered.
Giving feels good. It is a form of healing. Not just for you as an individual but for everyone.