“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”
I’ve been in situations where I thought things were bad, and sometimes I was very unhappy, and other times I was happy. The difference wasn’t in the external circumstances, but in my mindset — I have learned to appreciate what I have, instead of focusing on the things I didn’t have or didn’t like. I was grateful for my health, for the people in my life, for having food and being alive.
If you can learn to develop the right mindset, you can be happy now, without changing anything else. You don’t need to wait until you’ve changed everything and made your life perfect before you’re happy — you have everything you need to be happy right now.
Take a moment to be grateful for something. What in your life is good? Even if everything seems bad, there must be one good thing. It might simply be that you have beauty somewhere nearby, or that you are alive, or that your children are healthy. Find something, and give thanks for that.
Find the little things that can give you simple joys. What do you need to be happy? I love simple things, like taking a walk, spending time with a loved one, reading a book, eating some berries, drinking tea. These cost very little, and require very little, and can make me very happy. Find the simple things that give you similar happiness, and focus on those rather than what you don’t have. I wrote about this in my earlier post – The Small Things.
Find the things about yourself that you’re happy with. We tend to criticize ourselves easily, but what if we turned it around and asked, “What do I do right? What am I good at? What is loveable about me?” Make a mental list. Start to focus on these things rather than what you’re unhappy with.
Do the same with others in your life. Instead of criticizing them, ask yourself, “What is good about this person? What do I love about them?” List them and focus on these things above all else.
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”