“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”
 Opray Winfrey

I’ve been in situations where I thought things were bad, and sometimes I was very unhappy, and other times I was happy. The difference wasn’t in the external circumstances, but in my mindset — I have learned to appreciate what I have, instead of focusing on the things I didn’t have or didn’t like. I was grateful for my health, for the people in my life, for having food and being alive.

If you can learn to develop the right mindset, you can be happy now, without changing anything else. You don’t need to wait until you’ve changed everything and made your life perfect before you’re happy — you have everything you need to be happy right now.

Take a moment to be grateful for something. What in your life is good? Even if everything seems bad, there must be one good thing. It might simply be that you have beauty somewhere nearby, or that you are alive, or that your children are healthy. Find something, and give thanks for that.

Find the little things that can give you simple joys. What do you need to be happy? I love simple things, like taking a walk, spending time with a loved one, reading a book, eating some berries, drinking tea. These cost very little, and require very little, and can make me very happy. Find the simple things that give you similar happiness, and focus on those rather than what you don’t have. I wrote about this in my earlier post – The Small Things.

Find the things about yourself that you’re happy with. We tend to criticize ourselves easily, but what if we turned it around and asked, “What do I do right? What am I good at? What is loveable about me?” Make a mental list. Start to focus on these things rather than what you’re unhappy with.

Do the same with others in your life. Instead of criticizing them, ask yourself, “What is good about this person? What do I love about them?” List them and focus on these things above all else.

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” 
 Dale Carnegie

14 thoughts on “Contentment

  1. Amen! Great Points, it is all in the mind. It truly is our perspectives then at times governs our emotional state. Positivity and honesty is always the best policy.

    Hosanna in the Highest!!!
    For His Love and Glory
    ♥ Linda M

  2. Contentment has never been my trial, probably because I have always seen both sides of the coin, that things could always be worse! I’m the happiest when counting my blessings and, weighing things spirituality & not merely temporally.~ Extremely wonderful article ! Thanks friend ~Deborah

  3. I do agree all you said about contentment. And in a normal lifestyle all sounds appropriate. But, in present situation, I have a feeling that these words that is – contentment , happiness , positivism will never again find a place in my life.

    1. In difficult times I try to remember the wise words of the Dalai Lama ……. ”The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy.” It’s all about attitude! Julia

      1. I don’t find you statements conflicting but in present mental state I don’t feel like accepting them either. I don’t know if you visited my blog but all my recent posts show the negative feelings I have collected in past 2 months.

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