‘Never think that you’re not good enough. A man should never think that. People will take you very much at your own reckoning.’
Do you ever feel not good enough? Do you look at yourself and make excuses for why you can’t be, do, or have what you want? Seeing yourself as unworthy will keep your desires at bay.
You probably already know that society places excessive value on the outward appearances of success, such as money, material possessions, physical appearance, marital status, career and so on. In contrast, little consideration is ever given to the loftier values of a person, such as love, integrity, kindness, emotional intelligence, forgiveness and inner balance, when defining one’s success. This means that we have a warped definition of success based largely on outward appearances, which really results in a warped sense of self worth.
Get in touch with your inherent self-worth. Learn to be your own greatest fan and supporter. If you don’t value yourself, other people won’t do it for you.
You can start by beginning to value yourself and feel your self-worth by becoming your own greatest fan and supporter. Every time you accomplish something, give yourself a pat on the back. Seriously, say- great job, I am very proud of myself. It doesn’t have to be a big accomplishment, a simple goal, everything you do is valuable, begin to to appreciate yourself more. If you experience moments of doubt, you solicit outside feedback. You ask friends and colleague to tell you about your strengths.
Unless you are as enlightened as the Dalai Lama or Eckhart Tolle you cannot value yourself enough. Even if you feel joyful, powerful and positive, stretch your acknowledgment of yourself even further. The more you experience this, the greater your impact on others and the world. So value yourself.
‘Having a low opinion of yourself is not “modesty”. It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not “egotism”. It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.’