Personal Choices


“There are no wrong turnings. Only paths we had not known we were meant to walk.”
Guy Gavriel Kay

All of life is a journey, which paths we take, what we look back on and what we look forward to is up to us. We determine our destination, what kind of road we will take to get there, and how happy we are when we get there.

Sometimes, we reflect on our life and wonder how we came to be at a certain crossroad or exactly how we got where we are now. This can apply to anything in life; career choices, our choices of marriage partners or even the personal decisions we have had to make, the crises we have lived through.

Life is a path; a means of getting from one place to another and made up of individual stones or paces we take one after the other.When we started out on a certain path in our life, we don’t have the luxury of seeing where our footsteps will lead us.That is the beauty of living.

Every decision we make along the way leads us to more paths and so on and so on until by the end our life is one continuous string of smaller paths we have taken. All combined to make the final trail.

Is it fate that leads us to veer from the original path we had in mind or is it something called destiny? What ever we call it, there is a certain amount of luck, good and bad and most importantly personal choice.

‘You never know what’s around the corner. It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you’ve climbed a mountain.’
Tom Hiddleston


7 thoughts on “Personal Choices

  1. Reminds me of what Castaneda wrote–

    “Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary. Then ask yourself, and yourself alone, one question. This question is one that only a very old man asks. My benefactor told me about it once when I was young and my blood was too vigorous for me to understand it. But now I do understand it and I will tell you what it is:

    “Does this path have a heart?

    “All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed long long paths, but I am not anywhere. My benefactor’s question has meaning now: Does this path have a heart?

    “If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.

    “Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path.”

    ― Carlos Castaneda, “The Teachings of Don Juan: A Yaqui Way of Knowledge”

    Thank you as always for sharing your wisdom and insight, Julia.

    Kindest regards,


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