“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
High self-esteem is not an all or nothing game. For a lot of us, we can vary greatly on the self-assurance spectrum depending on our mood, frame of mind, thoughts about our current circumstances. It is easy to spot the behaviours of people with self-confidence but self-esteem is more of an internal thought process fueled by beliefs
Raising your self esteem is more a process of eliminating barriers. You were born with a sense of worth. Your interpretation of events over time may have eroded that. Once you remove the obstacles towards self esteem, it will bubble up naturally.
What do you like about yourself? Look at all the areas of your life. What do you like?
Watch out for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or over-thinking. Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back – what would you want to say to them?
Learn to catch yourself every single time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get or are not good enough to get what you want. Take yourself off auto-pilot – make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
Norman Vincent Peale