“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
Confidence is not something that can be learned like a set of rules; confidence is a state of mind.
Confidence comes from feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (self-esteem) and belief in your own ability, skills and experience.
Confidence is not a static measure, our confidence to perform roles and tasks can increase and decrease; some days we may feel more confident than others.
People often feel less confident about new or potentially difficult situations. Perhaps the most important factor in developing confidence is planning and preparing in advance for the unknown.
Learning and research can help us to feel more confident about our ability to handle situations, roles and tasks. Knowing what to expect and how and why things are done will add to your awareness and usually make you feel more prepared and ultimately more confident.
Positive thought can be a very powerful way of improving confidence. Positive thinking helps us to highlight our strengths and successes and learn from our weaknesses and mistakes. We so often dwell on things that we are not happy with from our past – making them into bigger issues than they need to be. These negative thoughts can be very damaging to confidence and your ability to achieve goals.
True self-confidence is not an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realise you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and love.
“When I was a child my mother said to me, ‘If you become a soldier, you’ll be a general. If you become a monk, you’ll be the pope.’ Instead I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.”