‘If you wouldn’t write it and sign it, don’t say it.’
Good communication is the key to success, whether you are speaking in front of a large audience or trying to get a point across to a new friend.
Authority and confidence are the two tones that inspire respect. Although some people use them interchangeably, they are different.
Authority refers to the tone you use when you actually have authority over someone and you want to inspire obedience. Picture a general giving a command.
Confidence refers to the tone you use when you do not have authority over someone, but you still want to inspire respect. Picture someone explaining an idea they strongly believe in.
When we are anxious, we may talk faster. Consciously slowing down and enunciating words offers more control and allows leeway for speeding up if emotions kick in. Managing our pace and enunciating words controls emotions, which helps us feel more confident and sound more serious! Our voice may go higher when we are frustrated or nervous.
Add deliberate pauses to your sentences. For short sentences, add one pause at the halfway point. For longer sentences, add two pauses at the 1/3 and 2/3 mark.
It is easier to use the tone to signal confidence instead of authority. Just reduce the intensity.
Remember with practice and preparation you can have the confidence to speak up and stand out in any situation.
‘Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall.’
Oliver Wendell Holmes