“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
Self esteem simply means appreciating yourself for who you are – faults and all. Some things may be equally essential but nothing is more important than a good sense of self-esteem and loving yourself.
People with a healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves for who they are, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities and accomplishments. They also acknowledge that while they are not perfect and have faults, those faults do not play an overwhelming or irrationally large role in their lives or their own self-image.
‘Know thyself’ is an old saying passed down through the ages, to encourage us to engage in self-exploration. It is not just about knowing your strengths and weaknesses, but also opening yourself up to new opportunities, new thoughts, trying out something new, new viewpoints, and new friendships.
Sometimes when we are down on ourselves and our self-esteem has taken a bashing, we feel like we have nothing to offer the world or others. It may be that we simply have not found everything that we do have to offer – things we have not even considered or thought of before. Learning what these are is simply a matter of trial and error. It is how people become the people they have always wanted to become, by taking risks and trying new things they would not ordinarily do.
When your opinion of yourself goes up you stop requiring validation and attention from other people. You become less needy and find an inner stability even when your world might be negative or uncertain at times.
Increasing self esteem and self love also makes you feel more deserving of good things in life and so you go after what you deep down want with more motivation and focus than ever before.
“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”