“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”
Jonathan Safran Foer
We all at times have felt rejected, unloved, helpless, lonely and not quite good enough. We have had to come to terms with the fact that we have to say good bye to those we love most? We have seen the pain, suffering and destruction that exists in the world? Life is tough, it hurts a lot…. Being truly alive involves pain.
A perplexing thing is that not only sad things cause tears, happy things do as well. A family reuniting at the airport with both hugs and tears. Why the tears at the time of great joy? Isn’t joy about reaching the other side of the struggle? Didn’t the family reuniting at the airport first have to go through the pain of separation, a time of loneliness and fear of loss before the joy of their reunion? Whether it is the sorrow of good bye or the joy of hello.
By letting in the pain, it allows us to embrace the joy of being human. All the pain in the world cannot deny the existence of those exquisite moments. Tears have a positive part to play in our lives when we understand that pain is part of life’s richness. No matter how difficult life gets, we can handle it and come out stronger and wiser. Tears reflect the poignant moments that lies in many of our sorrowful experiences.
We have been taught that real man don’t cry. In fact real men do cry. Fake men don’t cry. Real men are real! They are not pretending to be the strong silent type when deep feelings of pain need to come out!
There is strength in healthy tears for both men and women. There is peace, flow, energy, compassion and beauty.
“any fool can be happy. It takes a man with real heart to make beauty out of the stuff that makes us weep.”