“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.”
Too many people walk through life carrying the heavy weight of self doubt. Deep down, they fear that they are missing some essential quality that would make them truly successful socially (worthy of love) or in other areas of life (professionally, sports).
Self doubt is that feeling of uncertainty about your ability to accomplish something. This dark shadow of insecurity can lead to hesitation and indecision. If left unchecked, it can cause us to abandon our course or radically compromise our expectations.
There are certain words and thoughts that reveal the presence of doubt and we should train ourselves to spot them early on. Phrases like “I’m not sure, maybe I was wrong, I don’t feel up to the task, or this is too hard” may indicate a weakening of confidence brought on by self doubt in our own abilities.
As with other kinds of fear, there are positive aspects of self doubt for those who manage to overcome it. Our determination will always be greater once we successfully meet challenges to our self confidence.
Recognise and acknowledge your self doubt. You cannot overcome something until you first recognise and acknowledge its existence. The better you become at identifying hidden doubts, the easier it will be to overcome them.
People who are insecure often only notice situations or feedback that confirms their lack of value. They often downplay their strengths. Choose to pay attention to more positive feedback about you: Choose to consciously listen for positive feedback.
Another way that people keep themselves feeling inadequate is that they fail to remember evidence of them being worthwhile or successful people. They can not remember anything particularly good that they did; and do not remember any meaningful positive feedback – which is easy to do if you have selective attention.
For most people, self doubt is just a temporary condition. Think of it like a speed bump on the road to success.Take the bump in stride, then put the pedal to the floor, and go for it.
“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”
Vincent van Gogh