“Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment I know this is the only moment.”
Thích Nhất Hạnh
We so often find ourselves getting caught up in the stress, anxiety, and worry over events in our lives. We tend to go into a state of mental paralysis and find it difficult to climb out from the exhausting emotional repercussions.
Inner calm is something you maybe searching for. Here are some of ways that will help you in finding your own inner peace.
Make time for yourself every day for a minimum of 15 minutes doing something you love to do, that is just for you. Anything from a bath to a hobby you enjoy. Mix it up and choose different ways to do this. Have fun! You are not spoiling yourself; you are simply taking care of yourself. Some of us treat this as an option within our day rather than be making it a priority.
Become appreciative of all you have. Each morning start your day by stating what you are grateful for that’s in your life. Each night before sleep, remember what made you grateful from that day.
Forgive the unforgivable. It is the kindest thing you can do for your self. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and sadness and suffering inflicted, but you deserve to be free of this pain. As Ann Landers said, “hate is like an acid. It damages the vessel in which it is stored, and destroys the vessel on which it is poured.”
We tend to want to control things in which we have no control of. We even try to control other people’s behaviours and actions. In reality,we only have true control over ourselves and our own responses. The rest is completely out of our control. When we exert control, the outcome leads to more frustration, anger, and exhaustion. Acceptance is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength. As we move further away from control and closer towards acceptance, our perception changes and we are exposed to a completely different view of our circumstances.
Most times we are either reflecting back on our past or projecting forward about our future. Neither of those allows you to enjoy the present. The past cannot be rewritten or changed. Focusing on “what could have, should have, or would have” done is pointless. You have the opportunity to live the way you want to right now.Focus on planning your future but stop wasting your time worrying about it. You have no way of predicting the place you will be in tomorrow. Life is ever changing, enjoy the ‘right now‘.
Trust that you are right where you need to be in life this very moment. Every experience we have is an opportunity for learning and growth. What you learn along the way will benefit you at some point in your life. Look for the lesson, you will eventually find it; everything happens for a reason.
A deep inner calm inside can remain, regardless of what challenges life throws at you.
“If you’re looking for inner calm from the outside world, you’re not going to get that. The inner peace starts with looking at you from the inside. Understanding that everything that comes to you is what you are. Everything from friends to partners, to the job you get – it’s all a direct reflection of what you are on the inside.”
Mary J. Blige