”The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.”
Peter F. Drucker
Our behaviours and thoughts translate into noticeable expressions that actually spotlight how we are feeling. In fact 93% of the recognizable messages we send to others are through non-verbal communication.
Dr. Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages, showed that only 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% by the way that the words are said, and 55% through nonverbal elements, such as facial expressions, gestures, posture, etc.
Therefore if we are going to act confidently (whether you feel it or not), we need to first understand what low confidence behaviour looks like and pick up on any weak body language. Such as crossing our arms, not smiling, looking down, and not making eye contact.
So what can we do to turn these low self confidence behaviours around?
Darlene Price, author of Well Said! tells us, ‘When we stand up tall and straight, we send a message of self-assurance, authority and energy’.
Good posture creates a dynamic commanding presence and leadership, bad posture signals to others that we lack confidence and have low self-esteem or low energy levels.
A gesture is any physical movement that helps express an idea, opinion or emotion. Using movements that are natural, lively and spontaneous. most importantly be genuinely ourselves and let our motions match our message. Avoid any distracting mannerisms such as finger-pointing, fidgeting, scratching, tapping, playing with hair, and twisting a ring.
Self confidence is extremely important in all aspects of our lives, it is a vital part to portraying competence.
After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that is being presented by someone who was nervous, fumbling, and overly apologetic.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, with good eye contact, answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
“When someone exudes confidence, we want to work with them. We are more likely to follow their lead.”