“You’ve got to find yourself first. Everything else’ll follow.”
Charles de Lint
I have been through tough times. Sometimes we have to die a little on the inside in order to rise from our own ashes and believe in our self and love our self again. Call it ‘growth’. Call it ‘finding yourself’. Call it whatever you want.
The key is to living moment to moment when times are tough. Taking small steps and moving forward with clear goals until moments become minutes… minutes become hours… hours become days… days become weeks… weeks turn to months… and you find meaning… and life becomes a reason to smile.
The process is almost like learning to walk or speak for the very first time. It is not easy, but in the process we grow and we find ourselves, stronger, wiser, and possessing talents we did not know we had. When we refuse to give up on ourselves, the toughest of times can lead us to the best.
“Life is painful and messed up. It gets complicated at the worst of times, and sometimes you have no idea where to go or what to do. Lots of times people just let themselves get lost, dropping into a wide open, huge abyss. But that’s why we have to keep trying. We have to push through all that hurts us, work past all our memories that are haunting us. Sometimes the things that hurt us are the things that make us strongest. A life without experience, in my opinion, is no life at all. And that’s why I tell everyone that, even when it hurts, never stop yourself from living.”