”Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
Our self confidence is in our control….we can do things to increase it. Self confidence is not genetic, and neither do we have to be reliant on others to improve it.
By taking control of your life and by taking concrete actions that improve your competence, you can increase that self confidence, without the help of anyone else.
Action, actually, is the key to developing self confidence. When we start acting on it, we change our self, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions.
When we have good posture we feel better about our self. Imagine that a rope is pulling the top of your head toward the sky, and the rest of your body straightens accordingly. People who stand tall and confident are more attractive.
Set a small goal and achieve it. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it.You will feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you will be at it, and the better you will feel. Soon you will be setting bigger goals and achieving those too.
Change a habit. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking 5 glasses of water each day. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you have accomplished it, you will feel good and developed a good habit.
Exercise. I seem to include this often. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last two years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself. All you have to do is take a walk each day, and you will see benefits. Start the habit.
I believe that when we have a healthy sense of self confidence things become lighter and easier. We do not make as many mountains out of molehills (or out of plain air). Or beat our self up or drag our self down over mistakes or temporary setbacks. Life becomes much happier and more fun.
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”
William Jennings Bryan