Being Judgmental


”Be curious, not judgmental.”
Walt Whitman

We are all judgmental. Yes, even you. I certainly am, many times. I think it is human nature.

We see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. Not good judgment, either. Usually without even knowing the person.

It is impossible to know exactly how another person is feeling or what kind of emotional battles they are fighting. Sometimes the widest smiles hide the thinnest strands of self-confidence and hope. Sometimes the ‘rich’ have everything but happiness.

Instead of judging someone for what he’s done or how he looks, try instead to understand the person. Put yourself ‘in their shoes’. Try to imagine their background. If possible, talk to them. Find out their backstory. Everyone has one. If not, try to imagine the circumstances that might have led to the person acting or looking like they do.

Once you begin to understand, or at least think you begin to understand, try to accept. Accept that person for who he is, without trying to change him. Accept that they will act the way they do, without wanting them to change…..Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own.

“I am grateful that I am not as judgmental as all those censorious, self-righteous people around me.”


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