”Don’t criticize what you don’t understand, son. You never walked in that man’s shoes”.
Elvis Presley

Nobody likes being criticised but, unfortunately it is a fact of life. To be able to respond to criticism with nobility and detachment is an important life skill, which few of us have. If we respond to criticism without careful consideration, it can easily lead to unnecessary suffering.

The problems are that quite often we only value praise. When people speak kind words we feel happy. When people criticise us we feel miserable and defensive.. However, if we only received insincere praise and false flattery, how would we ever make progress? If you wish to improve and develop you should invite constructive criticism and appreciate their suggestions.

When people criticize you directly try not to feel they are not criticising your real self; but, just a specific aspect of yourself. Most criticism is probably based, at least in part, on some truths. Criticism may appear negative. But through criticism, we have the opportunity to learn and improve from their suggestions.

Sometimes we are criticized with no justification. This is a painful experience. But, potentially you can deal with it more easily than criticism which is justified. One option is to remain aloof and ignore it completely. If you remain silent and detached the criticism is given no energy. If you feel the necessity of fighting it – in a way, you give it more importance than it deserves.

Smiling, even a false smile, can helps you to relax more. It will definitely help psychologically. Smiling will motivate the other person to moderate their approach.

Some criticism can be taken with a pinch of salt, while others can give useful insights, which can use to make beneficial changes.

”Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots”.
Frank A. Clark


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