Comparing Yourself

”When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.”
Lao Tzu

Most of us understand the foolishness of trying to compare ourselves to others. We would readily admit that no good ever comes from it. Yet, whether we are comparing our home size, salary, physical features, or any number of measurable (and even unmeasureable) things, we do it all the time.

We all do it or have done it at some point in our lives: we compare ourselves to others and gauge where we are based on what we observe them to be doing.

If this was simply an observation, that would be one thing, but in comparing ourselves to others, we often end up judging ourselves.  There is no one worse to judge

The thing about comparing is that there is never a win. How often do we compare ourselves with someone less fortunate than us and consider ourselves blessed? More often, we compare ourselves with someone who we perceive as being, having or doing more.

Comparing our self stems from our insecurities, from not feeling good enough to resenting the success of others. It sets us up for mediocrity rather than real success, it drains us of our authentic self and it neutralizes the creative power of our own thoughts. Building your self worth based on your own definition of success and developing a solid self esteem will free you to stop comparing yourself to others once and for all.

It is human nature to compare. But it is far better to simply redirect the comparison, compare your self to a past and a present you – and keep the comparison within. We are always becoming more. Who you are today is a result of the decisions you made yesterday. We are always in a state of creation. We decide and then we decide again, and we try to achieve the direction towards growth.

So, when you catch yourself comparing yourself to another, stop for a moment and re-direct the thought. It is far more useful to ask yourself these questions. What are you doing today that you could not have done 5, 3 or even 1 year ago? What have you started doing in the last year that you might have found inconceivable before?

Strive to keep your eye on yourself to build your self up, so we can become more emotionally free. You can control one life – yours. When we consistently compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.

“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
Shannon L. Alder


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