Springing Back


“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Nelson Mandela

Resiliency means being able to bounce back from life developments that may feel totally overwhelming at first. When resilient people have their lives disrupted they handle their feelings in positive ways. They allow themselves to feel grief, anger, loss, and confusion when hurt and distressed, but they do not let it become a permanent feeling. An unexpected outcome is that they not only heal, they often bounce back stronger than before.

You can develop resilience in several ways. First, take care to exercise regularly and get enough sleep, so that you can control stress more easily. The stronger you feel physically and emotionally, the easier it is for you to overcome challenges.

Being  self aware is important. Resilient people do not let negative thoughts derail their efforts. Instead, they consistently practice positive thinking. Also, ‘listen’ to how you talk to yourself when something go wrong – if you find yourself making statements that are negative or self derogatory, correct these thoughts in your mind.

Learn from your mistakes and failures. Every mistake has the power to teach you something important; so keep searching until you have found the lesson in every situation.

Choose your response. Remember, we all experience bad days and we all go through our share of crises. But we have a choice in how we respond; we can choose to react negatively or in a panic, or we can choose to remain calm and logical to find a solution. Your reaction is always up to you.

Focus on thinking positively. Build strong relationships with colleagues and friends, so that you have a support network to fall back on. Also, set specific and achievable personal goals, and work on building up your self-confidence.

Grasp the idea of ‘post-traumatic growth‘ – there is real truth in the saying that ‘if it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger.’ Decide to let it make you stronger today!

“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”
Steve Maraboli,


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