With Understanding



“Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek.”
Dalai Lama XIV

Most people make superficial judgments about others. Some people go even farther by judging others based on one single situation. The first thing we need to do to understand someone deeply is to eliminate all kind of prejudges, superficial judgments and all other premature conclusions made about that person.

A person with understanding is able to look into the heart. They also use knowledge and wisdom, enabling them to bring light and peace to others. Their love and relationships can survive for a long time.

Knowing is the first step to gain understanding. By doing more listening and reflecting. If we want to understand a person we need to listen to them and trying to put our self in their shoes.

Keeping in mind that our primitive motives like attraction, attention and status can explain the behaviours exhibited in many people. These ‘universal‘ needs often give the most obvious motives. People are obviously more typical than they are not.

Empathy, is truly the emotional glue that holds all close relationships together. Empathy allows us to slow down and try to walk in the shoes of those we love. The deeper our empathy, the deeper-and healthier-our love. Not all relationships are meant to be. Yet all relationships that are meant to flourish in a healthy way, must stress understanding just as much, if not more, than love.

Run through this list when you are confronted with confusing behaviour.

Put yourself in their shoes

Think of times you have been in a similar situation and explain your reaction.

Can the behaviour be explained by a more ‘universal‘ needs than a person-specific one?

Is your conclusion affected by your attitude towards that person?

Geater understanding plays an important role in all aspects of our life. Practice being more understanding today.

“Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.”
John Steinbeck


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