Facing The Sun




“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.”
D.H. Lawrence

Self pity is all around. We are living in a time and place that sets the bar very high. We look around and rate ourselves by the images we see in the media. By comparison, we are too old, too fat, have too many wrinkles, do not have a gorgeous partner who adores us, have no special talent, and are not fabulously wealthy and successful.

When you pity yourself all you see is your self, not others. This is so common, when we have problems, all we see are our problems and that is all what we love of talking about. We do not see the good things in our lives

Self pity is the opposite of self esteem. It arises because we feel pulled down by life difficulties. We feel something is missing, leaving behind a tremendous sense of lack. The ache of not being ‘good enough‘ is felt as self-pity or ‘poor me.’

Yet a person who is emotionally strong can believe they are enough…. strong enough and good enough. They trust their instincts and feel secure in thier choices.even in difficult times of change. Taking responsibility for every victory, as well as for the failures along their way.

Or do you prefer to be dependent, wishing someone would take you by the scruff of the neck and carry you like a young kitten to a safe place? But even if that wish comes true, you can still feel ‘poor me‘ inside.

It is only by positive action that we fill that sense of lack. And that action needs to be based on  what works for you , who we really are and what is important to you.

The next time you feel sorry for yourself and lapse into self pity or feel inadequate, look at the situation and analyse where it came from. Was it from not feeling good enough, not trusting your choices, feeling misunderstood or unappreciated?

Take a close look at your situation. If you are not comparing yourself to others, how would you rate your life? Which things are good? Which things need changing? What steps can you take to do that?

Focus on you, think positive, realistic thoughts about yourself. Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. You cannot outperform your level of self esteem.

Look for the good things in your life today…. listing the things you are proud of. Focus on accepting yourself……remember, you can only be comfortable with yourself with your own approval.

”Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
Stacey Charter


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