Valuing Yourself


“We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.”
Malcolm X

Most of us tend to undervalue ourselves – we either learned this behaviour, we may have a negative image of our self worth, or we may even think it is inappropriate to see ourselves as having or offering value. The exact opposite is true – it is absolutely vital to value yourself, and what is more, it will help you bring more valuable experiences into your life.

We teach others how to treat us, by what we accept, and by how we treat ourselves.

Are you dismissive of yourself? Do you treat yourself with the same respect that you treat others? When someone says “Thank you” to you, do you acknowledge it… or do you dismiss the “Thank you” as not necessary? Are you uncomfortable when someone thanks you or compliments you?

These are all clues as to how you treat yourself and the example you set to others, of how you deserve to be treated. Start slowly, appreciating compliments, accepting thanks – thank yourself some time. It is a very strange feeling saying “Thank me“, but it can be very effective.

Look at the ways you accept yourself. The moment you realise that no one is your enemy, except yourself…..Start today to put greater value on yourself.

“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.”
Nic Sheff


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