”BUT……….”

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“Without knowing the force of words, it is impossible to know more.”
Confucius

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Imagine you are with a good friend and he or she says ”You did a great job with this… but……” or ”really like your new hairstyle…….but . What happens in your mind when the person says that little word – even before they say anything else?

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The word BUT puts a negative emphasis or cancels everything that comes before it. And is generally seen as a signal that the really important part of the sentence is coming up.

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Maybe the person speaking intends to be helpful or complimentary. But they then step on this verbal ‘landmine’ which then destroys the positive effect they were trying to create.

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There are other ways of having the same effect without using the word. For example, ‘yet’ and ‘however’ can be used without the same negative impact.

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Begin today to try to replace your ”BUT‘s” in your conversation with the word ”AND”. Try it for the next 7 days and see it become a positive change in your communication.

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“Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.”
Jodi Picoult

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