More Approving

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“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”
August Wilson

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Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself. A high opinion about yourself and who you are and what you do and basically a love for yourself.

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A good place to start with raising your self esteem is by learning how to handle and to replace the voice of your own inner critic. We all have an inner critic. This inner voice whispers or shouts destructive thoughts in your mind. Thoughts like :

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”You are lazy and sloppy, now get to work.”

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”You aren’t good at your job at all and someone will understand that and throw you out.”

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”You are worse or uglier than your friend/partner.”

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But you do not have to accept this though. There are ways to minimise that critical voice and to replace it with more helpful thoughts. You can change how you view yourself.

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One way to do so is simply to say ”stop” whenever the critic pipes up in your mind……You can do this by creating a stop-word or stop-phrase. Or use my favourite: ”No, no, no, we are not going there.” Or come up with a phrase or word that you like that stops the train of the thought driven by the inner critic.

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Choose to re-focus your thoughts to something more constructive. Like planning the next step you need to take to reach that goal you are working on, or siomply what you want to eat for dinner

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In the long term it helps you greatly to find better ways to motivate yourself rather than listening to your inner critic.

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Look out for your inner critic today, change it to more positive, self approving thoughts.

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“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
Louise L. Hay

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