Believing You Can





”Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.”
Roy T. Bennett

Self-belief is vital. How many things have you not done or tried because you lacked belief in yourself?

Yet self doubts creep in, like welcomed thoughts  simply because you have listened to them before. ‘‘Can I really do this?” ”Other people are better, smarter, more worthy than me.”

Our level of self belief is not set in stone; not unalterable. We can all be flexible and change, even ‘fly’. Remember you were born into this world with no sense of what you could or couldn’t do. Then, bit by bit, life started to teach you to limit yourself. A very young child never says: “I’m not the kind of person who could…” They have not yet learned to limit their own horizons or listened to people who leak pessimism.

One of the first steps is to re-examine and discard many of the limiting ideas you have about yourself; ideas that you have somehow collected along the way.

When we start to doubt our self listen, for a moment, to that little negative inner voice. Whose voice is it really? A parent’s, old school bullies? A collection of lots of different voices from different times and people? One thing is for sure is that little inner self-critical voice was not yours originally. It may masquerade as belonging to you now, but it does not really. Tell yourself: “This is not my true voice!” Then start to challenge it and also to just ignore it.

Self belief comes not just by trying to convince yourself you can do stuff. True self belief actually comes from developing the vision that you can relax socially, start that business, write that book, or whatever it is you need to believe you can do or be.….Get into the habit of sitting down, closing your eyes, and watching yourself behaving decisively, calmly, and strongly.

Self belief does not mean arrogance or blindness to one’s own shortcomings. It does not mean believing that you are perfect as you are, either. Your self belief really needs to be focused on what you will become. And an important part of self-belief comes from knowing your weaknesses and being relaxed about them.

Self belief gives you the freedom to make mistakes and cope with setbacks by seeing them for what they are: temporary setbacks, not the end of the world. And something else you will notice: As your self belief grows, people around you start to believe in you more, too.

Take a closer look at how you see yourself today. Remember, your thinking creates good or bad outcomes

“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.”
David J. Schwartz


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