‘Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.’
Ralph Waldo Emerson
So often we rush from one day to the next without stopping to reflect. Yet we can easily begin self improvement by taking stock of were we are.
What you have already achieved
Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you have achieved in an ‘achievement log.’ Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam, played a key role in an important team, produced the best sales figures in a period, did something that made a key difference in someone else’s life.
Put these into a smartly formatted document, which you can look at often. And then spend a few moments each week enjoying the success you have already had.
What are your strengths
Next take a look at who and where you are. Looking at your achievement log, and reflecting on your recent life, think about what others would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think about the opportunities and threats you face.
What is important to you, and where you want to go
Think about the things that are really important to you, and what you want to achieve with your life.
Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this, and real self-confidence comes from this. Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets, and measure your successful of reaching those targets. Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimise your weaknesses, realise your opportunities, and control the threats you face.
Having set the major goals in your life, identify the first step in each. Make sure it’s a very small step, perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete! Just start.
Manage your mind
At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. Learn to pick up and check the negative self talk which can destroy your confidence.
Commit yourself to success
The final part of preparing for change is to make a clear and unequivocal promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your plan, and that you will do all in your power to achieve it.
Think about where you want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it.
Make that promise to yourself today.
“If you try anything, if you try to lose weight, or to improve yourself, or to love, or to make the world a better place, you have already achieved something wonderful, before you even begin. Forget failure. If things don’t work out the way you want, hold your head up high and be proud. And try again. And again. And again!”