How You Talk To You



“Self-talk reflects your innermost feelings.”
Asa Don Brown

Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself. A high opinion about yourself and who you are and what you do and basically a love for yourself.

A good place to start with raising your self esteem is by learning how to handle and to replace the voice of your own inner critic. We all have an inner critic. This inner voice whispers or shouts destructive thoughts in your mind. Thoughts like for example:

‘You are lazy and sloppy, now get to work.”

‘You aren’t good at your job at all and someone will understand that and then you loose your job.”
But you do not have to accept this though. There are ways to minimise that critical voice and to replace it with more positive thoughts. You can change how you view yourself.

One way to do so is simply to say ‘‘stop” whenever the critic starts up in your mind……You can do this by creating a stop-word or stop-phrase. Or use my favourite: ‘‘No, no, no, we are not going there.” Or come up with a phrase or word that you like that stops the train of the thought driven by the inner critic. What is my evidence for and against my thinking? Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?

Choose to re-focus your thoughts to something more constructive. Like planning what you want to do at the weekend or the next step you need to take to reach that goal you are working on..

Changing the way you think about things may not be easy at first, but with time and practice, you will get better. Try it out – it is worth the effort. You find that in the long term it helps greatly to find better ways to motivate your self rather than listening to our inner critic.

Remember, the way you choose to think and speak about yourself is a choice. Look out for your inner critic today, change it to more positive, self approving thoughts….. say something positive to yourself instead.

“Consistent positive self-talk is unquestionably one of the greatest gifts to one’s subconscious mind.”
Edmond Mbiaka

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