Micromanaging Life




“How would your life be different if…You stopped worrying about things you can’t control and started focusing on the things you can? Let today be the day…You free yourself from fruitless worry, seize the day and take effective action on things you can change.”
Steve Maraboli

The need for control destroys our sense of well being and negatively affects our relationships, yet we all do it. This fear based behaviour stems from our need for stability, security and predictability in our lives, especially when we are faced with things life issues of earning a living, being in a relationship, or taking care of our physical needs.


We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we do not, or being attached to an outcome we are sure is best for us.

The more we micromanage everyone or everything around us, the more likely we feel insecure and out of control within ourselves. This is a sign that signals us that our pattern of control is operating.

Another sign is the obsessive attachment to a certain outcome, grievance, or position. Other signs are the urgent need to defend ourselves, be right, or blame someone. Moreover, our need for control usually surfaces in situations where we feel pain, fear or discomfort.

When we let go of the need to control, we find an abundant source of energy and creativity. By changing our pattern of control, we can enjoy the experience, see it from a new point of view and trust that it is giving us new information about ourselves and our life’s journey.

Begin by recognising that it is not your job, nor is it in your power, to control what happens outside of you. Understanding that instead you can only control what happens within your own mind.

The reality is that things go much more smoothly when we allow them to happen instead of making them happen. Let yourself trust the situation today, allow it to unfold. Open yourself up to the possibilities and trust in today’s outcome.


Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”
Steve Maraboli





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