In Denial





“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
Fyodor Dostoyevsky

One of the hardest people to be completely honest with is yourself. It is so much easier to fool yourself and remain ignorant than to actually own up to what is real. Fooling yourself is really easy to do and the preferred option for most people. The truth hurts and is often uncomfortable, which means that admitting what is real can be impossible for some people. Lying to yourself is the norm because it is easy and the path that requires the smallest amount of examination or change.

One of the most common lies that people tell themselves is that some goals are unachievable. When we are having a difficult time reaching goal, we sometimes convince ourselves that that goal is not realistic and not worth following. This is a harmful lie because it keeps us from pursuing something that is meaningful to us.

The dangerous thing about lying to yourself is that you get so deep into the lie that you no longer believe it to be a lie. You consider it to be the truth. This is when lying to yourself can be most damaging because it can change your entire perspective and everything that you believe in. When you are in denial it is impossible to think clearly. It is time for a whole new change of thought once you start down the path of denial.

The only way that you can stop lying to yourself is if you find the strength  to admit the truth. This normally does not happen until you are confronted by the truth or forced to deal with reality in some way. Until then, you will simply just choose to live in denial and be oblivious.

Remember you can learn a lot from your past when you are not too busy denying it to yourself.

“Reality denied comes back to haunt.”
Philip K. Dick


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