”Observe all men; thy self most.”
Are you self-aware?Being self aware is not a goal, but a continual learning process. Understanding yourself can help you during arguments, in choosing friends, and in finding general peace and joy in life
Self-awareness means that we have a good understanding about who we are and how we relate to the world. This means being mentally and emotionally present in situations, and understanding how our actions affect people. It also means that we are clued into to what we really enjoy and dislike.
A useful first step to self-awareness is to look at past issues you have had with people and be honest with yourself. Sometimes it is hard to think that we might have messed up that we do not allow ourselves to reflect on the actions we took to help prolong or cause an argument.
The following thoughts can act as a warning sign for needing better self-awareness.
What’s wrong with them?
They did this to me for no reason.
Our friendship ended and I have no idea why.
Suddenly she is not talking to me. She must be moody.
When you think such thoughts, turn the focus back to yourself and see if there was something you did to push someone’s buttons, start an argument, or prolong a disagreement.
Self-awareness is important in our relationships, but you also have to balance it. The act of self-reflection should be to determine how your actions affect your friendships, not to act as a martyr or take the blame for everything. Understanding your role and acknowledging the things you do wrong will help you keep a harmonious life.
“The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.”