Self Determination





“We are so accustomed to the comforts of “I cannot”, “I do not want to” and “it is too difficult” that we forget to realize when we stop doing things for ourselves and expect others to dance around us, we are not achieving greatness. We have made ourselves weak.”
Pandora Poikilos.

I believe to be successful we need to take responsibility for our own life. With a healthy level of self reliance we do not need to look to others to sort, fix, mend or organise our lives for us. As individuals we are each responsible for the life we have and we alone have created.

Self reliance is like a muscle. We can use it or lose it. When we start to be self-reliant on a regular basis, we grow bigger, stronger and able to cope with what ever life demands are put upon us. Self reliance is the single universal quality that truly powerful individual share.

Trying to win people over, seeking approval and acceptance, trying to impress and craving praise all create weakness and destroy ones real power because it make one dependent on other people’s whims. We end up being a puppet, controlled by other’s mood and choices.

Are you dependent on the acceptance of others, do you follow like a sheep? Take a closer look to see if you are making your own decisions, living the life which is right for you.


Being self reliant means being the one to make the choices about your future – whether that feels good or bad. The good thing about committing to making your own choices is that you have the final say about your life’s direction, but the harder part of the process is that it can feel quite comforting to allow others to make choices for you.


If you chronically struggle with being in charge of your decisions, start out with small ones (such the as the restaurant choice on your birthday) and gradually work up to larger choices (such as vacation destinations or career paths).

It is important to be able to draw on your own strength and to know that you are complete without the input or presence of anyone else. Are you determining your own life? Look within yourself today at improving your self reliance… independent mindset will lead to more confidence and inner peace in your life.

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

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