Self Identity





”To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

We all have an innate need to define ourselves. Our identity is something we love to have because without it, we are become unsure of ourselves, but also unsure of life itself. We feel like a fragile tree, ready to be broken by the winds of life.


When we are unsure about our identity, we look outside ourselves to define ourselves. Advertisers know this and prey on it. They give us identity, give us definition, but only if we purchase their product. If you buy this, you are cool and sophisticated! The masses buy into this and thus the identity is bestowed upon the purchase.

Not having a clear sense of  identity, or a lacking the self esteem to act on them, people are able to manipulate you. Others annoy you, or you get annoyed with yourself, but most importantly because you are unable to present a clear concept of who you are to those around you. People will not be able understand where you stand on something which makes it difficult for them to develop respect or trust for you.

All too often we try to build our identity around external things such as appearance and the clothes at the expense of neglecting the inner values of who we really are.


The truth is, nothing outside of you can define you. You define yourself and you do not even know it because you give that power over to others and to possessions to define you and when you do that, you weaken yourself.


So how do you define yourself?


When you live it whole. When you do not lead a double life. You are not a different person at work, or at home, or at a party, or with your close friend.Your consistent actions across all areas of your life will determine who you are because that will reinforce your definition of yourself…….What values define you?


“To know who I am is a species of knowing where I stand. My identity is defined by the commitments and identifications which provide the frame or horizon within which I can try to determine from case to case what is good, or valuable, or what ought to be done, or what I endorse or oppose. In other words, it is the horizon within which I am capable of taking a stand.”
Charles Taylor


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