Not Personally




Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.’
Harvey Fierstein

Taking things too personally and too seriously, makes life difficult, and often brings unhappiness and suffering.

The psychologist Albert Ellis states that a person is not affected emotionally by what happens around them, but by their interpretation of what happened. In turn, our interpretations are formed by our beliefs.

When we take things too personally and seriously, we make ourselves more vulnerable to hurt feelings, anger, frustration and unhappiness. Taking things too personally is like placing a heavy load on our back.

When confronted with criticism , changing our thinking is easier said than done because it requires taking positive action in a negative scenario. But if we do it repeatedly it will lead to a change in attitude and our behaviour……Confidence acts as a buffer between you and the comments and actions of other people. The more confident you are, the thicker that buffer is.

If you have low confidence you are likely to bristle at any negative comment people throw at you because there is a part of you that is afraid that what they are saying is true.……If someone says something negative about you, you know that it is a small flaw that is not going to hold you back in any way; or that it is something that you have the ability to improve. Therefore, it is much easier for you to simply shrug it off.

Remember, when you let other people upset you, you are allowing them to dictate how you feel. That is, you are giving them power over you. Stop giving your power away. Calm yourself down by taking a few deep breaths. Tell yourself that you will not give anyone the power to make you unhappy. Take your power back by taking control of what you are thinking.

”Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
Don Miguel Ruiz

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