For You



”Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
Lucille Ball

Most of us understand what it means to love another person. The feelings of intense desire, admiration and emotional investment in another person are likely familiar. We go through great lengths to nurture our love towards others. But loving yourself? That can feel like a foreign concept to many of us.

Self love is a combination of self acceptance, self possession ( a feeling of being calm, confident, and in control of one’s feelings), self awareness, and kindness and respect for ourselves. Self love is both conceptual, an idea that you are worthy of self respect and gentleness, and an action, treating yourself with compassion and nurturance. Put simply, self love is positive self regard in action.

Discarding your negative filter is vital. Focusing only on the negatives in your life is a bad habit. Excessive focus on negative or less favourable events in your life can make these events seem disproportionately important. If you find yourself complaining that everything that happens to you is bad, try to find a little evidence to the contrary; it is very unlikely that everything is really bad.

It can be easy to fall into the assumption that the very worst outcome will happen with every situation. However, changing your inner thoughts to be realistic or truthful can help you avoid the generalization or exaggeration that accompanies assuming the worst.

Just because something made you happy in the past does not mean you have to keep it forever. If you want to see changes in your life today, you will have to do things that you have never done before. Different input = different output. Move away from the things that drain you and move toward the thoughts and activities that empower and fulfill you.
When you spend time loving and rewarding yourself, you will likely see benefits in other areas of your life. Notice whether you have more energy, or if you are able to be more present with others. You might start to feel like you are more in charge of the choices you make, and that you have more control of your life. You are you and that is your power.

Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Live like you love yourself today.

Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”
Steve Maraboli

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