An Independent You





‘If it is to be, it is up to me.”
William H. Johnsen
I believe to be successful  we need to take responsibility for our own life. With a healthy level of self reliance we do not need to look to others to sort, fix, mend or organise our lives for us. As individuals we are each responsible for the life we have and we alone have created.

Self reliance is like a muscle. We can use it or lose it. When we start to be self reliant on a regular basis, we grow bigger, stronger and able to cope with what ever life demands are put upon us. Self reliance is the single universal quality that truly powerful individual share.

Trying to win people over, seeking approval and acceptance, trying to impress and craving praise all create weakness and destroy ones real power because it make one dependent on other people’s whims. We end up being a puppet, controlled by other’s mood and choices.

Find healthy ways to express negative emotions. Instead of needing to take your anger out on other people or complain to others, for example, you can learn to use the mature defense mechanism of channeling your emotion. You can channel anger or irritation into an activity like running, art or a competitive team sport. If you have such an activity to fall back on, you become much more self reliant when it comes to regulating your emotions
Are you dependent on the acceptance of others, do you follow like a sheep? Take a closer look to see if you are making your own choices, living the life which is right for you.

Look today to starting to improve your self reliance… independent mindset will lead to more confidence and inner peace in your life.

“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.”
Lao Tzu


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