Upping Your Self Esteem




“You save yourself or you remain unsaved.”
Alice Sebold

Why do people often have self-esteem problems? One of the big reasons is that they do not take responsibility for their lives. Instead someone else is blamed for the bad things that happen and a victim mentality is created and empowered. This limits many parts in our life. Stuff like relationships, ambitions and achievements.

That hurt will not stop until we wisen up and take responsibility for our life. There is really no other way around it……And the difference is really remarkable. We feel so much better about our self even if we only take personal responsibility for our own life for day.

This is also a way to stop relying on external validation like praise from other people to feel good about our self. Instead we start building a stability within and find an inner strength that fuels our life with positive emotions no matter what other people say or do around us.

As you build your self-esteem to a higher level you find that many smaller problems we experience regularly such as negative thinking, self-defeating behaviour and troubled relationships with your self and others start to correct themselves as your self-esteem improves. You gain an inner stability and you are able create your own positive feelings within without the help of validation from other people.

It is very important to be kind to yourself, particularly if you are finding it hard to take responsibility. There might be mental barriers getting in your way. Deeply ingrained patterns can be challenging to change and there is a reason for resistance. If you are having trouble letting go. Wanting to change, and believing that you can makes all the difference.

As with everything, change does require time and effort, and it does require you to step outside of your comfort zone. It is not always easy but well worth the effort. Accepting responsibility for your self-esteem is crucial step in your journey to a healthy self-esteem.

“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
Iyanla Vanzant

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