A Step Forward

“No matter if your feet are big or small, any size step forward is better than none at all.” 
Christine E. Szymanski  

In order to get something in life, we often have to give something up. In order to change our situation for the better, we have to take some action that is not necessarily going to be easy or fun. Life is the opposite of perfection. It can be beautiful, of course, but it is obviously quite messy and chaotic at times. Too often we shy away from taking the next step because we are afraid it might not be worth the discomfort. It is scary and uncomfortable to upset the status quo, even when it is to gain something better. 

Yet taking small steps can make a big difference, especially in tough times, but there is no getting around the fact that taking these steps is often uncomfortable. That is why so many people often do not do it – at least not initially. But we have to catch ourselves, and remind ourselves that just because it is not easy does not mean it is not worth it. The key is to remember that it is ok to feel uncomfortable, because that is where human growth and healing begins. 

It all comes down to a single question Is the change you are wanting to implement – finding a new job, reinventing yourself or your business, ending a relationship, or something else- truly going to help you move toward the life you want to lead in the weeks and months ahead?  

If so, then it is a sign that it’s time to step forward, and it’s probably worth enduring some extra discomfort to get there. You can also rephrase the question to help you think through it: How important is moving forward to you? And what are you willing to sacrifice, in the short term and long term, in order to be happier in the term? 

By questioning your situation like this, you will realise that there are great reasons to step out of your comfort zone and to grow. Changes of this magnitude do not come easily for any of us—especially as we collectively deal with the realities of Covid 19. But once you start to have an honest conversation with yourself about what you want to change in your life going  forward, you will find it easier to direct your full energy toward overcoming your present obstacles. When you are focused on all the good that will come from making the change you desire, the sacrifices you will have to make to achieve that change simply won’t seem so big. 

Adapting to change and getting unstuck from an unhappy or unhealthy present situation, is fundamentally about becoming comfortable with discomfort. It is about choosing to embrace that discomfort, not because you want to make your life overly complicated or difficult, but because there are some things that are worth suffering for. It is about giving certain things up right now to get more of what you truly want in life in the weeks and months ahead. 

Changing your situation is about not sidestepping the issue or avoiding the elephant in the room. It is about moving into uncertainty with openness and honesty, and realising that this choice might bring with it anxiety, discomfort, and even pain. It is about being willing to accept what comes, about being vulnerable. By being open to this kind of honesty and vulnerability, you also open yourself to a sense of renewed freedom, peace, and emotional richness that otherwise may never have entered your life. 

Remember that you have the power to change your situation for the better, no matter what. Remind yourself that giving up does not always mean you are weak or wrong. Today, it simply means you are strong enough and smart enough to let go and move forward with your life. 

If you want more passion and joy in your life right now, do something about it right now. …Put your heart and soul into something. 

Not into ‘the next opportunity,’ but the small opportunity right in front of you. You have people and lots of little circumstances you are taking for granted. You have an endless reservoir of untapped potential within you, just waiting. 

Stop waiting…. Do the uncomfortable things. Suffer a little to gain momentum again. 

There is no next opportunity, only the one you have at this moment. Take that first step today. 

‘The first step to living the life you want is leaving the life you don’t want. Taking the first step forward is always the hardest. But then each step forward gets easier and easier. And each step forward gets you closer and closer until eventually, what had once been invisible starts to be visible. And what once felt impossible starts to feel possible.’’ 

Karen Salmansohn 

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