Self Acceptance

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
 Mark Twain

Finding peace within is a wonderful but also a difficult thing. It is easy to go looking for it in the wrong places.

By trying to push away the bad stuff or change it into better stuff, we are forever judging this moment as not good enough and therefore postponing our happiness. Whenever there is judgement or resistance we cannot be at peace with ourselves.

Not knowing any better, I followed this approach for many years. It is a never ending path. If we focus on finding things to fix we will endlessly discover more. And when is the point reached when you think ‘OK, that is me done… now I can be happy?’ Finding inner peace involves giving up searching and deciding to be content now.

I discovered a much simpler way of finding inner peace, right here, right now, in any moment and it involves awareness.

Inner peace does not come from self-improvement, it comes from self-acceptance. When you accept what is you stop feeding energy into resisting what is. You do not make a problem more powerful and prominent in your mind. Instead, somewhat counter intuitively, when you accept what is it loses much of its power.

And you feel stillness inside. Now, accepting what is does not mean you give up. It just means that you put yourself in a better position take action if necessary. Because now you can see more clearly, you can focus your energy towards what you want, what is important to you, then taking the appropriate action to change your situation.

By accepting what is it is much easier to let go of things and to forgive what has happened.

When you do what you enjoy there is a natural peace that arises within. You are energised and alive, leading to well being and contentment. Today choose to focus on accepting yourself, broken pieces included. Remember. you are beautiful.

“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.”
 Amy Bloom